2022 is Near!
EXCERPT FROM THE COMING COMPANION BOOK: Do The Work!
One of my values as an artist, coach, and human is to be as honest as possible given my experience, research, and understanding.
That does not always align with what is popular, common, or liked.
As we roll into setting goals and paths forward, it’s worth considering that we often pursue things we want, which are influenced by what others have.
We are tricked by the beauty of those things. Usually wanting more, rarely less.
That wanting is a result of the distorted fun house mirror perspective of our values.
Rarely does that naturally and automatically align with what is best for you.
What is best for you and what you want are likely different. That is why we so often miss in finding what will give us joy and peace. Your follow through will wane too.
You can get things you want, or you can get things that are best for you. You can’t put energy into everything, particularly dichotomous things.
You must discover and choose to reorient your life toward what is best for you.
That is what reaching your potential is about. It’s not about getting all the things you ever wanted. Paradoxically, if you find what is best for you rather than what you want, it’s likely to give you all the things you ever truly wanted.
It’s also not about some faux Law of Attraction: the notion that if you want a car, or money, or a partner, you can get those things by manipulating the universe to your will.
You might be able to get those things but it’s not a guarantee, for sure not a scientific law. Is it a spiritual law? Maybe.
Personally, I think there is an inherent danger in considering things that rely on external elements of life to align with what I desire, as laws rather than hopes.
It may give you hope to think that if you do X then Y is a guarantee. But what emotional damage will you deal to yourself when Y doesn’t happen? Or it looks different than your hope?
Attraction is about first becoming desirable enough to attract something you desire. Working your ass off to become what you want to attract.
That’s what makes you more desirable, but you still don’t control the actual attraction. You can only make yourself more desirable. That’s not a law. That’s hard work.
After all your work (and for most of us we won’t even put in the full amount of work—myself included), there is still no guarantee you will attract the thing you desire. Should you stop the pursuit? Hell no.
You may fail and fail but as you learn yourself you can uncover your values and what is best for you. It has often been my experience that getting what I thought I wanted, was not as good as getting what I got.
Here’s to hoping that 2022 helps you get what brings you peace!
Sincerely,
Coach Sean