Striving for Success!
We all want hope. Memes and video clips adorn social media with simple, easy-sounding paths to success. I think it‘s worth a bit of clarity and honesty you won‘t often get from those clips and memes, which usually only contain snippets of truth. And a partial truth is often the greatest lie.
As we are rolling into a new year, people are defining their goals, and visions of success. I don’t want to dampen the hope and inspiration you may be feeling. Keep going!
To help I’ve created the top 10 list of things you need to do to reach for success:
- Align your desires with your values.
- Put in consistent, determined, effort over time.
- Willingly take risks.
- Learn, adapt, and try again.
- Persevere when you waiver and want to quit. (Insert hope here.)
- Have a clear vision of your own success, not a comparative one.
- Have a support network.
- Teach yourself to recognize opportunity.
- Compare the work to the reward.
- You might not succeed.
Not succeeding isn‘t often talked about. It goes against most of what I see on social media from the preachers/coaches selling the idea of success being attainable for everyone.
It might be avoided because it’s not an easy topic and it doesn’t feel good. Or maybe they are trying to give you the hope to step out and take a risk. I don’t know their reasoning.
If they are avoiding it they‘re probably just regurgitating what someone else said. If they are manipulating your feels then they are being predatory and need to wonder why?
I’d also wager that some of those people touting the simple path to success believe that failure cannot happen. If that‘s so, it’s entirely based on a biased conclusion. They are successful and they did these things. Therefore, it must be true. That’s perfectly fine, except it flies in the face of what’s honest.
Those memes and clips make it easy to believe that success is a guarantee. You need hope throughout the whole process. Why take a risk if you don‘t have hope of success?
I’m assuming you are an intelligent person and can recognize that having hope is different from having a guarantee.
Yes, of course, we desperately want a guaranteed path to success. If I do X, Y, and Z I will succeed. Three of those things are true. You will need to do X, Y, Z, and probably much more.
Why does this matter to me? If you are a person who has tried something and failed believing that you should have succeeded and didn‘t would say something about you wouldn’t it? Probably not a very good thing. You may think you are a failure because you didn’t do something you should have or that the universe is conspiring against you are some other thought distortion.
The truth is, it wouldn’t be called risk if there wasn’t a chance that you would fail. There have been many people who have taken risks and found success. There have been many people who have taken risks and didn’t.
It might be that real success is living a life where you’ve given it your everything and when you‘re nearing the end of your days you have very few regrets. I suspect it’s not about safety and not about external rewards.
Point to ponder: What if success is about desiring less rather than more?
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